I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As a follower of Christ I have been confronted with my own self. Because of my past, I am somewhat acquainted with violence. That is not to say that I am violent, but I’m well acquainted with it. This means that I don’t shy away from violence. I don’t relish it, but I’m not afraid to use it as a tool to fight evil. Evil can and will be defeated by good. But unfortunately, when evil is at your door with violence you must use violence to defeat it. If three dirt bags break down my living room door with the intent to plunder and hurt, I will react with hard and fast violence to quell that evil. I’d like to talk my way out of a situation if I can, but in that scenario, talking and reason will not work. The military exists to defend this nation against enemies foreign and domestic. That defense consists of violence. I was trained to defend that way. In training others to use a firearm I have long advocated the ADD method before violence. Avoidance, deterrence, and de-escalation. Life is just easier without getting into a firefight. I’ve backed down from more than one situation that could have escalated into a real brouhaha. I’m not too concerned how I look. If I’m perceived as a wimp then so be it. I’m secure enough in my life where image is not very important. If you are not, you should work on that. There is a quote from the original Star Trek series: “Spock, I’ve found that evil usually triumphs unless good is very, very careful.” (Dr. Leonard McCoy in “The Omega Glory,” Episode 23, Season 2, Star Trek) The point is, the old saying “Violence begats violence” is actually true. Violence does not have to be the answer. But as Chris Kyle was fond of saying, “Despite what your Momma told you, violence does solve problems.” And when it is the answer, it needs to be precise and swift. This is why we practice. The more we practice, the more precise and swift we can be. I’ve met several guys that are under the delusion that they need no practice. They think when called upon to administer violence they can do it. But it is not normal or comfortable for a human being to do things to another that may injure or be fatal to them. Hesitation can kill you. Practice mitigates hesitation as it gives some experience in shooting and not shooting. There’s a big difference between hesitation and not shooting. Not shooting is a choice, hesitation is a reaction.
I had a friend several years ago. He was a Pararescueman in the Air Force and went on many missions. It got to a point where he was forced to take leave by an Air Force phycologist. He volunteered to go on many dangerous missions that almost always included a body count. Finally, he was forcibly transferred to another team. His present team did not trust him. They claimed he gave up their position and presence when it was not necessary just to get another “kill”. He was approached by several brothers about this problem. He was also told that he was going to be facing a court martial and dishonorable discharge if he did not take care of his problem. To his credit, he did take care of himself and quit the teams to finish his enlistment and honorably separate from the military. He is one of the best instructors I ever took training from and he taught for several years as a civilian until he retired. His story is a successful one, but there are others that don’t end well. Killing can be addictive. Violence is also addictive. To combat this addictive attitude, being aware of, and in control of emotion and the intent of your mission is essential. If the mission is to take out enemy combatants, such as search and destroy missions, then violence and killing may be in order. No war being declared also blurs those lines as a military member. In civilian life, violence, especially killing, is less common and less administered. But when violence of action is required, fatal violence is on the table to stop the threat. In many cases, when the presence of a gun is discovered, the threat usually withdraws.
Being a warrior but not being war-like is different than just being violent. I’d like to stay a warrior so I feel I need to work on myself.
Dr. Edward Tick has also worked with thousands of veterans and wrote a similarly valuable book about war and coming home titled “War and the Soul.” He says that a veteran of war does not become a “true warrior” merely for having been in combat. Instead, he says that a veteran does not become a warrior until they:
- Learn to carry their war skills in mature ways;
- Exercise restraint;
- Set right their life again;
- Discipline the violence within themselves;
- Prioritize protecting life over destroying it;
- Serve their nation in peace as well as in war making;
- Use force only when they have absolutely no other choice;
- Use their influence to dissuade their people from suffering the scourges of war unless absolutely necessary; and
- Use the fearlessness they have developed to help keep sanity, generosity, and order.
“The ideal warrior is,” Tick writes, “assertive, active, and energized. He or she is clear-minded, strategic, and alert. A warrior uses both body and mind in harmony and cooperation. A warrior is disciplined. A warrior assesses both his own resources and skills and those arrayed against him. A warrior is a servant of civilization and its future, guiding, protecting, and passing on information and wisdom. A warrior is devoted to causes he judges to be more important and greater than himself or any personal relationships or gain. Having confronted death, a warrior knows how precious and fragile life is and does not abuse or profane it.”
I agree with Dr. Tick. Until we become a well rounded human being we will never be a true warrior. In the process we curb our violent tendencies and control ourselves.
Dave Grossman, author of “On Killing” and physiologist wrote:
“Bruno Bettelheim, a survivor of the Nazi death camps, argues that the root of our failure to deal with violence lies in our refusal to face up to it. We deny our fascination with the “dark beauty of violence,” and we condemn aggression and repress it rather than look at it squarely and try to understand and control it.”
I believe violence is a necessary evil. The problem is that our culture and society doesn’t understand the need for violence under any circumstances. We accept that others can toy with violence. Such as military and law enforcement. The quote often attributed to George Orwell applies here:
“We sleep soundly in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm.”
This statement sums up the general publics attitude toward violence. Dave Grossman also sums up the general populations attitude toward warriors.
“The sheep generally do not like the sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He has fangs and the capacity for violence. The difference, though, is that the sheepdog must not, cannot and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheep dog who intentionally harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The world cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or a republic such as ours.
Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn’t tell them where to go, or give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage fatigues holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, “Baa.” Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire flock tries desperately to hide behind one lonely sheepdog.”
Most of the general public will never know the struggle that warriors have with violence. Trying to be less violent is the constant problem we have in trying to be good and civilized. Remember that when you see a tired looking law enforcement officer or military member.
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